So long...suckers

What are suckers?  Suckers are people who take away the joy of living.  They have also been referred to as emotional vampires or mood hoovers.  

They just suck everything out of you.  Nothing is ever good enough for them.  They crush any enthusiasm you have with either indifference or scathing criticism.  Every failure is a reason that you should stop trying.  They needle at you with little grabs for attention. 

Keep anything you value from them.  

Misery loves company and if you show them anything that brings you happiness then they will want to destroy it because they fear being left alone.

They will even suck the life from you if you pity them.  They are not proud and will latch onto any attention. 

If you are to be successful, you will have to make a simple decision. 

What is bringing value and happiness to my life? 

If something is taking away value and happiness then you need to get away from it.  It has no place in your life.

Any hardship can be endured if you know it will end

We all have to suffer hardships in our life – maybe we don’t have enough money to live properly or maybe there’s a difficult person in our life just chipping away at our confidence and love of living. 

How can we stop those hardships from affecting us so badly? 

We can take steps NOW to make sure that we won’t have to suffer them. 

Don’t have enough money?  Start looking for a new job or start working for that promotion.  Someone difficult?  Decide how you are going to spend less time with them.  Maybe start telling them you are too busy to see them.

Any hardship can be endured if we know it’s going to end.  What we need to do is to take steps to make sure that it will end and we can all do that NOW.

Success is built upon the foundations of failure

Anyone who was ever successful at something messed it up at some point.  The reason why they are successful today is that they dealt with the failure in a productive way.  

An early failure is natural on the road to success it tells us that whatever we have decided to do is hard and therefore it is worth doing and in the end it will reward us.  Failure is life’s most efficient way of teaching us what we need to know.  

How do we deal with it?  Celebrate your failure.  This is a great discovery for you and a great chance to progress to the next stage.  Remember Edison, when talking about making the lightbulb said ‘I didn’t fail 1000 times – I just discovered 1000 ways that didn’t work!’.  

Then, Think about what your failure says about you.  With some introspection and discussion with a trusted friend, you will find out what you need to do on your next step to success.  

If anyone ever says ‘You failed at this so you can’t do it.  Avoid them.  It’s that kind of thinking that keeps us trapped.  Failure is natural and healthy as long as we use it to our advantage.